Surat-menyurat:
Buat Istriku Tercinta,
Maaf beribu maaf, bulan ini Kanda tak bisa mengirim uang tuk kebutuhan dirumah. Kanda hanya bisa mengirim 1000 ciuman mesra tuk dinda.
Tertanda : Kanda Paijo
Dua minggu kemudian datang surat balasan dari istrinya yg isinya :
"Kanda Paijo tersayang,
Trimakasih atas kiriman 1000 ciuman mesra kanda, itu modal yg sangat berarti bagi kehidupan dinda disini.
Bersama ini pula dinda laporkan penggunaannya sbg pengeluaran keluarga bulan ini :
1. Tukang nganter gas elpiji bersedia menerima 3 ciuman mesra setiap kali membeli gas ukuran 3kg.
2. Tukang listrrik mau dibayar dg 4 ciuman pertanggal 10 setiap bulannya.
3. Pemilik rumah kontrakan mau dibayar cicil dg 3 ciuman stiap harinya
4. Engkoh pemilik toko bahan bangunan tdk mau dibayar pakai ciuman. Ia maunya dibayar dengan yg lain. Ya terpaksa Dinda berikan saja.
Hal yg sama juga Dinda berikan buat kepala sekolah dan gurunya si Udin yg sdh 3 bulan nunggak uang sekolah
Besok Dinda mau ke pegadaian untuk tukerin 200 ciuman dg uang tunai, krn pimpinannya sdh bersedia menukarkan 200 ciuman ditambah bayaran lainnya dg uang Rp.650 ribu. Lumayan tuk ongkos sebulan.
Keperluan pribadi Dinda bulan ini mencapai 50 ciuman
Kanda..., bulan ini Dinda merasa orang terkaya dikampung, krn skrg Dinda memberikan piutang ciuman mesra ke banyak pemuda di kampung kita dan siap ditukar dg uang tunai kapanpun dibutuhkan.
Jika ditotal ciuman dari kanda masih tersisa 125 ciuman lg, apa kanda ada ide ? atau dinda tabung aja yak tuk bulan depan ...?
Tuk kebutuhan bulan depan kanda cukup mengirimkan 1000 ciuman lg dan dinda akan selalu berupaya tuk menghematnya.
Trimakasih Kanda dari Istrimu tersayang...Lop u co mas..emmmmuuuuah
(Chiyen T.)
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24 Nov 2011
23 Nov 2011
Indonesia Menjilat dengan Malu-malu
by Leonardo Rimba II on Wednesday, November 23, 2011 at 11:08am
Rejim Suriah sebentar lagi jatuh, mungkin dalam waktu satu tahun ke depan. Setelah itu Iran. Terakhir Saudi Arabia. Itu yg saya lihat, walaupun di note sebelumnya saya membahas tentang Darwin. Darwinisme di Indonesia artinya penempatan pasukan tentara asli untuk menakut-nakuti tentara gadungan yg kerjanya nakut-nakutin WNI.
Untuk anda yg belum tahu, Charles Darwin is the Syaiton Laknatulloh bagi manusia beriman karena sudah berani begitu kurang azzar bilang manusia merupakan keturunan monyetz. Pedahal, siapa tahu the monyetz merupakan keturunan manusia. Aslinya manusia, tetapi karena terlalu getol beragama, lama-lama jadi monyetz.
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Seorang DJ kapir mengucapkan kata-kata berikut dalam lagu Natal remix yg baru di-upload di Youtube:
"On the first day, God created the earth. And He saw that it was good. On the second day, God created man. And he saw that he was good. On the third day, God created music, and He saw that this was good. So, on the fourth day, God created the club." (Pada hari pertama, Allah menciptakan bumi. Dan Dia melihat bahwa itu bagus. Pada hari kedua, Allah menciptakan manusia. Dan Dia melihat bahwa itu bagus. Pada hari ketiga, Allah menciptakan musik. Dan Dia melihat bahwa itu bagus. Makanya, pada hari keempat, Allah menciptakan klab).
Klab disitu maksudnya klab musik, tempat orang-orang kapir berjingkrak-jingkrak dengan lagu masa kini. Bukan lagu Bengawan Solo dan berbagai lenggang kangkung dan bayam sebagaimana layaknya yg asli dan berbudaya tinggi karena asalnya dari Indonesia atau, terutama, dari pulau Jawa. Jawa adalah tempat yg spiritualnya tertinggi di dunia, sehingga manusia disebut sebagai "beliau".
Contoh: Apakah beliau sudah menerbitkan album solo terbarunya ?
The kata "beliau" digunakan disini karena manusia Indonesia sangatlah berbudaya. Manusia Indonesia tertentu saja, maksud saya. Karena manusia Indonesia yg Kristen tidak begitu. Yg ini agak kapir, atau kapir asli mungkin, karena Allah sendiri tidak disebut dengan kata "beliau". Mana pernah orang Kristen menyebut Allah dengan kata "beliau" ?
Di dalam bahasa Inggris juga tidak dikenal kata "beliau".
Kata "beliau" khusus diciptakan Allah untuk manusia budax jenis tertentu. Khusus. Yaitu sebagian manusia Indonesia. Di bahasa-bahasa lain tidak dikenal istilah itu. Padanannya juga tidak ada.
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For your info, ini lagu baru diposting 5 minggu lalu, jelas untuk menyongsong this coming Christmas yg, walaupun secara kalendris masih 4 minggu dari sekarang, rasanya secara spiritualis sudah sampe. We are already in the Christmas mood. Rasanya begitu karena di Jakarta tiap hari sudah turun salju.
Another reason is, saya lagi fed up lihat begitu banyak orang Indon yg merasa diri spiritual ternyata masih terlibat dalam hal-hal penyiksaan diri. Masih suka menyiksa diri dengan harapan dikasihani oleh Allah ta'alla. Masih suka bertanya-tanya siapa pencipta ini semua. Siapa asal usulnya. Dan ujung-ujungnya akan nyoba jualah Allah which is kelakuan yg very un-spiritual. Spirituality is not about jualan, including jualan Allah, apalagi jualan agama.
Kita bisa berbicara apa saja tentang Allah (God dalam bahasa Inggris), seperti bisa didengar di dalam lagu itu, yg merupakan plesetan dari ayat-ayat di dalam kitab suci Yahudi dan Kristen. It was not written like that, tetapi tentu saja tidak ada larangan untuk diplesetkan. Ayat-ayat dibuat oleh manusia, dan bisa dirubah (diplesetkan) oleh manusia juga.
Last reason, saya rasa lagu ini bagus untuk membuka cakra-cakra. Daripada kumkum atau merendam diri selayaknya kodok, lebih baik anda goyang-goyang. Goyang badan atas, dan goyang barang bawah. Spirituality is about goyangz-goyangz. About life. And not about berdiam diri dan merenungkan jati diri, which is kelakuan yg pantas dihindari sejauh-jauhnya. You are what you are. That is your jati diri. Tidak perlu direnungkan prettt...
Untuk anda yg belum tahu, gereja Kristen asalnya juga suka menyiksa orang. Dulu, dan bahkan sampai sekarang, kalau sudah masuk tanggal 1 Desember orang akan disuruh puasa (jaman dulu dipaksa, tetapi jaman sekarang dihimbau saja). Puasa sampai saat Natal yg dirayakan tanggal 25 Desember. Puasa apa? Puasa melakukan apa yg anda sukai. Kalau anda sukanya nyebong (main cebong, cabos), maka hal itu perlu di-stop atau paling tidak dikurangi. Kalau anda sukanya merokok, maka kurangi merokok. Kalau sukanya dirokok, maka kurangi dirokok. Yg jelas, semuanya yg enak-enak harus di-stop atau at least dikurangi.
Untunglah jaman sekarang the himbauan tidak ada lagi yg perduli. Kalau suka dirokok, please continue it. It's your own business, bukan urusan orang lain.
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Itu di YM ada yg baru add saya, dan saya accept. Sudah saya kasih tahu saya tidak pakai YM lagi, tapi tetap saja dia tulis:
"Kamu tahu ilmu diri sejati ?"
Subhanalloh, pertanyaan yg very degil. Pertanyaan tentang "imu diri sejati" yg dibawa kesana kemari cuma akan menjadikan anda mangsa paranormal. Kalau tidak jadi mangsa paranormal, anda akan jadi mangsa penjual agama.
Seorang teman lainnya menulis kepada saya, sbb:
"... Aku sedih, di Home Facebook aku banyak orang yg menulis intinya seperti ini: 'Waspadalah Amerika sedang mengincar kita, kita harus berhati-hati, dan kita harus menghimbau pemerintah NKRI agar selalu waspada'. What do you think Mas Leo?"
Saya jawab: Pemerintah NKRI is pemerintah bangsat.
Untuk anda yg belum tahu, Arab Saudi itu penjilat pantat Amerika.
Saya kasih tahu anda, Arab Saudi itu menggantungkan eksistensinya kepada AS dan belas-kasihan sekutu-sekutu AS di Eropa. Dan tentu saja AS cuma menunggu sampai saatnya matang. Cepat atau lambat Saudi Arabia akan runtuh. Dan keluarga Al Saud tentu saja akan ngibrit ke AS. Arab Saudi mungkin masih bisa bertahan sekitar 10 tahun lagi. Yg saya lihat runtuh dalam satu tahun ke depan adalah Suriah. Dalam dua atau tiga tahun ke depan Iran.
Indonesia ini juga penjilat pantat AS.
Sebenarnya statusnya sama saja seperti Arab Saudi. Cuma bedanya, Arab Saudi benar-benar menjilat the pantat. Indonesia menjilat dengan malu-malu.
Rejim Suriah sebentar lagi jatuh, mungkin dalam waktu satu tahun ke depan. Setelah itu Iran. Terakhir Saudi Arabia. Itu yg saya lihat, walaupun di note sebelumnya saya membahas tentang Darwin. Darwinisme di Indonesia artinya penempatan pasukan tentara asli untuk menakut-nakuti tentara gadungan yg kerjanya nakut-nakutin WNI.
Untuk anda yg belum tahu, Charles Darwin is the Syaiton Laknatulloh bagi manusia beriman karena sudah berani begitu kurang azzar bilang manusia merupakan keturunan monyetz. Pedahal, siapa tahu the monyetz merupakan keturunan manusia. Aslinya manusia, tetapi karena terlalu getol beragama, lama-lama jadi monyetz.
-
Seorang DJ kapir mengucapkan kata-kata berikut dalam lagu Natal remix yg baru di-upload di Youtube:
"On the first day, God created the earth. And He saw that it was good. On the second day, God created man. And he saw that he was good. On the third day, God created music, and He saw that this was good. So, on the fourth day, God created the club." (Pada hari pertama, Allah menciptakan bumi. Dan Dia melihat bahwa itu bagus. Pada hari kedua, Allah menciptakan manusia. Dan Dia melihat bahwa itu bagus. Pada hari ketiga, Allah menciptakan musik. Dan Dia melihat bahwa itu bagus. Makanya, pada hari keempat, Allah menciptakan klab).
Klab disitu maksudnya klab musik, tempat orang-orang kapir berjingkrak-jingkrak dengan lagu masa kini. Bukan lagu Bengawan Solo dan berbagai lenggang kangkung dan bayam sebagaimana layaknya yg asli dan berbudaya tinggi karena asalnya dari Indonesia atau, terutama, dari pulau Jawa. Jawa adalah tempat yg spiritualnya tertinggi di dunia, sehingga manusia disebut sebagai "beliau".
Contoh: Apakah beliau sudah menerbitkan album solo terbarunya ?
The kata "beliau" digunakan disini karena manusia Indonesia sangatlah berbudaya. Manusia Indonesia tertentu saja, maksud saya. Karena manusia Indonesia yg Kristen tidak begitu. Yg ini agak kapir, atau kapir asli mungkin, karena Allah sendiri tidak disebut dengan kata "beliau". Mana pernah orang Kristen menyebut Allah dengan kata "beliau" ?
Di dalam bahasa Inggris juga tidak dikenal kata "beliau".
Kata "beliau" khusus diciptakan Allah untuk manusia budax jenis tertentu. Khusus. Yaitu sebagian manusia Indonesia. Di bahasa-bahasa lain tidak dikenal istilah itu. Padanannya juga tidak ada.
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For your info, ini lagu baru diposting 5 minggu lalu, jelas untuk menyongsong this coming Christmas yg, walaupun secara kalendris masih 4 minggu dari sekarang, rasanya secara spiritualis sudah sampe. We are already in the Christmas mood. Rasanya begitu karena di Jakarta tiap hari sudah turun salju.
Another reason is, saya lagi fed up lihat begitu banyak orang Indon yg merasa diri spiritual ternyata masih terlibat dalam hal-hal penyiksaan diri. Masih suka menyiksa diri dengan harapan dikasihani oleh Allah ta'alla. Masih suka bertanya-tanya siapa pencipta ini semua. Siapa asal usulnya. Dan ujung-ujungnya akan nyoba jualah Allah which is kelakuan yg very un-spiritual. Spirituality is not about jualan, including jualan Allah, apalagi jualan agama.
Kita bisa berbicara apa saja tentang Allah (God dalam bahasa Inggris), seperti bisa didengar di dalam lagu itu, yg merupakan plesetan dari ayat-ayat di dalam kitab suci Yahudi dan Kristen. It was not written like that, tetapi tentu saja tidak ada larangan untuk diplesetkan. Ayat-ayat dibuat oleh manusia, dan bisa dirubah (diplesetkan) oleh manusia juga.
Last reason, saya rasa lagu ini bagus untuk membuka cakra-cakra. Daripada kumkum atau merendam diri selayaknya kodok, lebih baik anda goyang-goyang. Goyang badan atas, dan goyang barang bawah. Spirituality is about goyangz-goyangz. About life. And not about berdiam diri dan merenungkan jati diri, which is kelakuan yg pantas dihindari sejauh-jauhnya. You are what you are. That is your jati diri. Tidak perlu direnungkan prettt...
Untuk anda yg belum tahu, gereja Kristen asalnya juga suka menyiksa orang. Dulu, dan bahkan sampai sekarang, kalau sudah masuk tanggal 1 Desember orang akan disuruh puasa (jaman dulu dipaksa, tetapi jaman sekarang dihimbau saja). Puasa sampai saat Natal yg dirayakan tanggal 25 Desember. Puasa apa? Puasa melakukan apa yg anda sukai. Kalau anda sukanya nyebong (main cebong, cabos), maka hal itu perlu di-stop atau paling tidak dikurangi. Kalau anda sukanya merokok, maka kurangi merokok. Kalau sukanya dirokok, maka kurangi dirokok. Yg jelas, semuanya yg enak-enak harus di-stop atau at least dikurangi.
Untunglah jaman sekarang the himbauan tidak ada lagi yg perduli. Kalau suka dirokok, please continue it. It's your own business, bukan urusan orang lain.
-
Itu di YM ada yg baru add saya, dan saya accept. Sudah saya kasih tahu saya tidak pakai YM lagi, tapi tetap saja dia tulis:
"Kamu tahu ilmu diri sejati ?"
Subhanalloh, pertanyaan yg very degil. Pertanyaan tentang "imu diri sejati" yg dibawa kesana kemari cuma akan menjadikan anda mangsa paranormal. Kalau tidak jadi mangsa paranormal, anda akan jadi mangsa penjual agama.
Seorang teman lainnya menulis kepada saya, sbb:
"... Aku sedih, di Home Facebook aku banyak orang yg menulis intinya seperti ini: 'Waspadalah Amerika sedang mengincar kita, kita harus berhati-hati, dan kita harus menghimbau pemerintah NKRI agar selalu waspada'. What do you think Mas Leo?"
Saya jawab: Pemerintah NKRI is pemerintah bangsat.
Untuk anda yg belum tahu, Arab Saudi itu penjilat pantat Amerika.
Saya kasih tahu anda, Arab Saudi itu menggantungkan eksistensinya kepada AS dan belas-kasihan sekutu-sekutu AS di Eropa. Dan tentu saja AS cuma menunggu sampai saatnya matang. Cepat atau lambat Saudi Arabia akan runtuh. Dan keluarga Al Saud tentu saja akan ngibrit ke AS. Arab Saudi mungkin masih bisa bertahan sekitar 10 tahun lagi. Yg saya lihat runtuh dalam satu tahun ke depan adalah Suriah. Dalam dua atau tiga tahun ke depan Iran.
Indonesia ini juga penjilat pantat AS.
Sebenarnya statusnya sama saja seperti Arab Saudi. Cuma bedanya, Arab Saudi benar-benar menjilat the pantat. Indonesia menjilat dengan malu-malu.
SMPN I Denpasar
Ni Nengah Hardiani:
Share pengalaman bersekolah di SMPN I Denpasar.
SMPN I Denpasar terletak di pusat kota denpasar, sekitar 2 km dari monumen kota yg jadi penanda 0 km di pusat kota.
Aku mulai bersekolah di kota ini tahun 1990, naik kelas 2, sebelumnya bersekolah di SMPN 2 Kodya Bengkulu.
Setiap hari berjalan kaki pulang pergi ke sekolah yg jaraknya sekitar 2 km dari tempat tinggal.
Kebanyakan gurunya sudah tua2, kakek2 dan nenek2 mungkin hampir pensiun. Tapi semua guru di sini baik2. Yg muda juga ada guru bahasa inggris, masih muda dan cantik, tapi kurus sekali.
Toiletnya walaupun sederhana, tapi bersih, selalu tersedia air bersih, sepertinya selalu dibersihkan setiap hari oleh penjaga sekolah/petugas kebersihan.
Halaman sekolah terawat baik, ada bapak2 tua penjaga sekolah yg pagi2 sudah menyirami tanaman dan halaman juga disiram supaya tak terlalu berdebu.
Di peraturan sekolah tertulis jelas murid tak boleh membawa kendaråan bermotor ke sekolah. Jadi kalau bawa sepeda tak bermotor boleh parkir di halaman sekolah/di depan kelas.
Esther Indra Susanti:
Woow msh ingat detail bgtss :)
Ni Nengah Hardiani:
Tapi kalau membawa sepeda motor atau mobil, maka diparkir di pinggir jalan di depan sekolah. Mereka walaupun anak SMP yg blm cukup umur untuk bikin SIM, biasanya menipu umur untuk urusan SIM ini.
Yg jadi perbincangan merek mobil yg dibawa, katanya ada yg bawa mobil BMW, mobil yg tergolong mewah untuk ukuran såat itu.
Esther Indra Susanti: Yup betul, daku sempat bw speda jg k skull looo
Hmmm kl itu aq Ъќ>:/ tau :)
Ni Nengah Hardiani:
Aku ingat salah satu ketua osis, kendaraannya ke sekolah adalah sepeda mini butut, cowok bermata sipit dan berkacamata agak tebal, tinggalnya sepertinya di salah satu ruko di pertokoan di pusat kota.
Kendaråan pak kepala sekolah --Pak Mejana, orangnya udah tua-- adalah skuter yg terawat baik, tapi mereknya bukan vespa.
Di depan sekolah ada deretan beberapa kantor bank. Kami suka menabung di bank BTN. Lucu, kadang yg nabung cuma satu orang, tapi datang bertiga. Soalnya di situ ada permen di toples yg boleh diambil dan air putih dingin dari dispencer.
Ada temen yg tinggalnya di kuta, sekitar 15 km dari sekolah, diantar jemput bis berlangganan sebagai alat transportnya.
Ada teman sekelas juga, namanya nama bali, bapaknya pendeta kristen, diantar jemput sopir kalau ke sekolah.
Esther waktu itu pake sepeda mini yg ada keranjangnya di depan, kan?
Esther Indra Susanti: Aq dulu jg nabung d btn hhihi.... Yup betul sepedaq itu skarang msh ada d rmh papaq :)
Share pengalaman bersekolah di SMPN I Denpasar.
SMPN I Denpasar terletak di pusat kota denpasar, sekitar 2 km dari monumen kota yg jadi penanda 0 km di pusat kota.
Aku mulai bersekolah di kota ini tahun 1990, naik kelas 2, sebelumnya bersekolah di SMPN 2 Kodya Bengkulu.
Setiap hari berjalan kaki pulang pergi ke sekolah yg jaraknya sekitar 2 km dari tempat tinggal.
Kebanyakan gurunya sudah tua2, kakek2 dan nenek2 mungkin hampir pensiun. Tapi semua guru di sini baik2. Yg muda juga ada guru bahasa inggris, masih muda dan cantik, tapi kurus sekali.
Toiletnya walaupun sederhana, tapi bersih, selalu tersedia air bersih, sepertinya selalu dibersihkan setiap hari oleh penjaga sekolah/petugas kebersihan.
Halaman sekolah terawat baik, ada bapak2 tua penjaga sekolah yg pagi2 sudah menyirami tanaman dan halaman juga disiram supaya tak terlalu berdebu.
Di peraturan sekolah tertulis jelas murid tak boleh membawa kendaråan bermotor ke sekolah. Jadi kalau bawa sepeda tak bermotor boleh parkir di halaman sekolah/di depan kelas.
Esther Indra Susanti:
Woow msh ingat detail bgtss :)
Ni Nengah Hardiani:
Tapi kalau membawa sepeda motor atau mobil, maka diparkir di pinggir jalan di depan sekolah. Mereka walaupun anak SMP yg blm cukup umur untuk bikin SIM, biasanya menipu umur untuk urusan SIM ini.
Yg jadi perbincangan merek mobil yg dibawa, katanya ada yg bawa mobil BMW, mobil yg tergolong mewah untuk ukuran såat itu.
Esther Indra Susanti: Yup betul, daku sempat bw speda jg k skull looo
Hmmm kl itu aq Ъќ>:/ tau :)
Ni Nengah Hardiani:
Aku ingat salah satu ketua osis, kendaraannya ke sekolah adalah sepeda mini butut, cowok bermata sipit dan berkacamata agak tebal, tinggalnya sepertinya di salah satu ruko di pertokoan di pusat kota.
Kendaråan pak kepala sekolah --Pak Mejana, orangnya udah tua-- adalah skuter yg terawat baik, tapi mereknya bukan vespa.
Di depan sekolah ada deretan beberapa kantor bank. Kami suka menabung di bank BTN. Lucu, kadang yg nabung cuma satu orang, tapi datang bertiga. Soalnya di situ ada permen di toples yg boleh diambil dan air putih dingin dari dispencer.
Ada temen yg tinggalnya di kuta, sekitar 15 km dari sekolah, diantar jemput bis berlangganan sebagai alat transportnya.
Ada teman sekelas juga, namanya nama bali, bapaknya pendeta kristen, diantar jemput sopir kalau ke sekolah.
Esther waktu itu pake sepeda mini yg ada keranjangnya di depan, kan?
Esther Indra Susanti: Aq dulu jg nabung d btn hhihi.... Yup betul sepedaq itu skarang msh ada d rmh papaq :)
22 Nov 2011
attractive
Why do I find attractive people frightening?
Attractive people are frightening for many reasons. First, the more attractive a person is to you, the more there is the possibility of falling into her or his bondage – that is the fear. You will be possessed, you will be reduced to a slave by the charm, the magnetism, the magic.
Attractive people are attracting and yet frightening. They are beautiful; you would like to relate with them, but to relate with them means to loose your freedom. To relate with them means not to be yourself anymore. And because they are attractive, you will not be able to leave them; you will cling. You know your tendency – that the more attractive a person is, the more clinging will arise in you; you will become more and more dependent. That is the fear.
Nobody wants to become dependent. Freedom is the ultimate value. Even love is not higher than freedom. Freedom is the ultimate value; next to it is love. And there is a constant conflict between love and freedom. Love tries to become the ultimate value. It is not. And love tries to destroy freedom; only then can it be the ultimate value. And those who love freedom become afraid of love.
And love means to be attracted to an attractive person. And the more beautiful the person is, the more you feel attracted, the more fear will arise because now you are going into something from where escape will not be easy. You can escape from an ordinary person, a homely person, more easily. And if the person is ugly, you are free; you need not become too dependent.
Mulla Nasruddin married the ugliest woman in the tomwn. Nobody could believe it. People asked him, “Nasruddin, what has happened to you?”
He said, “There is a logic in it. This is the only woman from whom I can escape any time. In fact, it will be difficult not to escape. This is the only woman in the town whom I can trust. Beautiful people are not trustworthy. They can fall in love easily because so many people are attracted to them. I can trust this woman; she will always be sincere toward me. I need not be worried about her; I can go out of town for months; I will not have any fear. My woman will remain mine.”
Just see the point: If the person is ugly, you can possess the person. The ugly person will depend on you. If the person is beautiful, the beautiful person will possess you. Beauty is power, it is tremendous power.
The ugly person will become a slave, a servant. The ugly person will in every way substitute for the beauty that is missing in him or her. The ugly woman will be a better wife than a beautiful woman – she will have to be. She will take more care of you, she will be a better nurse – because she knows that beauty is missing and something has to be provided instead. She will be very good to you; she will never nag you, she will never fight with you, she will not be in a constant quarrel with you – she cannot afford it.
Beautiful persons are dangerous. They can afford to fight. So these are the reasons.
You ask me, “Why do i find attractive people frightening?”
They are. Unless you understand and become aware, this fear remains. Attraction/fear are two aspects of the same phenomenon. You area always attracted to the same person with whom you feel a great fear. Fear means you will be secondary.
In fact, people want the impossible. A woman wants a man, the most beautiful, the most powerful man in the world – but also wants him to remain interested only in her. Now, this is an impossible demand. The most beautiful and the most powerful person is bound to be interested in many more people. And many more people will be interested in him. The man would like to have the most beautiful woman in the world, but also would like her to remain very faithful to him, devoted to him. That will be difficult; that is asking the impossible.
And remember: If some woman looks very beautiful to you, that simply shows you are not very beautiful. And you are afraid also – if the woman looks so beautiful to you, what is happening from the other side? You will not be looking so beautiful to her. There is fear – she may leave you. All these problems are there. But these problems arise only because your love is not really love but a game. If it is really love, then it never thinks of the future. Then there is no problem of the future. Tomorrow does not exist for real love; time does not exist for real love.
If you love a person, you love a person. What will happen tomorrow – who cares? Today is so much, this moment is an eternity. What will happen tomorrow, we will see... when tomorrow comes. And tomorrow never comes. Real love is of the present.
Always remember: Anything real has to be part of awareness, has to be part of the present, has to be part of meditation. Then there is no problem! And there is no question of attraction, and there is no question of fear.
Real love shares; it is not to exploit to the other, it is not to possess the other. When you want to possess the other, then the problem arises: The other may possess you. And if the other is more powerful, more magnetic, naturally you will be a slave. If you want to become the master of the other, then the fear arises that “I may be reduced to a slave.” If you don't want to possess the other, then the fear never arises that the other may possess you. Love never possess.
Love never possess and love can never be possessed. True love leads you into freedom. Freedom is the highest peak, the ultimate value. And love is closest to freedom; the next step after love is freedom. Love is not against freedom; love is a stepping-stone toward freedom. That's what awareness will make clear to you: that love has to be used as a stepping-stone for freedom. If you love, you make the other free. And when you make the other free, you are made free by the other.
Love is a sharing, not an exploitation. And in fact love never thinks in terms of ugliness and beauty, either. You will be surprised: Love never thinks in terms of ugliness and beauty. Love only acts, reflects, meditates – it never thinks at all. Yes, sometimes it happens that you fit with somebody – suddenly, everything falls in harmony. It is not a question of beauty or ugliness. It is a question of harmony, a rhythm.
Somebody has asked a question about what George Gurdjieff used to say, that for every man there is a corresponding woman somewhere on the earth, and for every woman there is a corresponding man somewhere on the earth. Each one is born with the polar opposite. If you can fins the other, everything will fall in harmony immediately. All their centers function harmoniously – that is love. It is a very rare phenomenon. It is very rare to find a couple who really fit together. Our society exists with such taboos, such inhibitions, that it is almost impossible to find the real mate, the real friend.
In Eastern mythology we have a story, a beautiful myth, that in the beginning when the world was created, each child was born not alone but as a couple: one boy, one girl, together, from the same mother. Twins, fitting with each other totally – that was the couple. They were in tune in every way with each other. Then the man fell from grace – just like the idea of the original sin – and as a punishment couples were no longer born from the same mother. Still, they are born! Gurdjieff is right – that's my own observation, too. Each person has a divine mate somewhere. But to find them is very difficult because you may be white and your opposite polarity may be black; you may be a Hindu and your opposite polarity may be a Mohammedan; you may be a Chinese and the opposite polarity may be a German.
In a better world, people will search and seek – and unless you can find the real person who can fit with you, you will remain in a kind of tension, anguish. If you are alone you are in anguish; if you meet the other person, you are in anguish if the other person does not fit with you or only fits so far. Now, through scientific investigation this has also been found: that there are people who fit, and there are people who don't fit. Scientific arrangements can made now; each person can declare his centers, his birth chart, his rhythm. Now there is every possibility to find the other person who fits exactly. The world has become very small, and once you have found the other person... it is not a question of beauty and ugliness at all.
In fact, there is nobody who ugly and nobody who is beautiful. The ugly person may fit with somebody – then the ugly person is beautiful for that person. Beauty is a shadow of harmony. It is not that you fall in love with a beautiful person; the process is just the opposite. When you fall in love with some person, the person looks beautiful. It is love that brings the idea of beauty in, not vice versa.
But it is rare to find a person who totally fits with you. Whenever somebody is fortunate enough, life is lived with a melody; then there are two bodies and one one soul. That is the real couple. And whenever you can find that kind of couple, there will be great grace and great music around them, a great aura, beautiful light, a silence. And love then naturally leads into meditation.
People should be allowed to meet and mix to find each other. People should not be in a hurry to get married. The hurry is dangerous; it only brings divorces, or it brings a life of long, long misery. Children should be allowed to meet with each other, and we should drop all pretechnological taboos, inhibitions; they are no longer relevant.
We are living in a post-technological age; man has become mature, and he has to change many things because many things are wrong. They were developed in the old days; it was a necessity then – it is no longer a necessity. For example, now people can live together, men and women, there is no need to be in a hurry to get married. And if you have known many men and many women, only then will you know who fits with you and who does not fit. It is not a question of a long nose or a beautiful face; somebody may have a beautiful face and you feel attracted, and may have beautiful eyes and big eyes and you feel attracted, and the color of the hair... but these things don't matter! When you live together, after two days you will not note the color of the hair, and after three days you will note the length of the nose; and after three weeks you will have completely forgotten about the physiology of the other. Now the reality impinges upon you. Now the real thing will be spiritual harmony.
Marriage up to now has been a very ugly affair. And priests were happy to allow it – not only happy to allow it, they were the ones who invented it. And there was some reason why priests all over the world have been in favor of this ugly marriage that has been on the earth for five thousand years. The reason was that if people are miserable, only then do they go to the churches, to the temples; if people are miserable, only then they ready to renounce life. If people are miserable, only then are they in the hands of the priests! A happy humanity will have nothing to do with the priests. Obviously. If you are healthy, you have nothing to do with the doctor. If you are psychologically whole, you have nothing to do with psychoanalyst. If you are spiritually whole, you will have nothing to do with the priest.
And the greatest spiritual disharmony is created by marriage. Priests have created hell on the earth. That is their trade secret – then people are bound to come to ask them what to do. Life is so miserable! And then they can tell them how to go get free of life. Then they can give you rituals for how never to be born again, how to get out of the wheel of birth and death. They have made life such a hell, and then they teach you how to get rid of it.
My effort is just the opposite: I want to create heaven here now so that there is no need to get rid of anything. There is no need to think of getting rid of birth and death, and there is no need for the old so-called religions. More music is needed, more poetry is needed, more art is needed. Certainly more mysticism is needed. More science is needed. And then there will be a totally different kind of religion born, a new religion. A religion that will not teach you antilife ideologies but help you to live your life in more harmony, more artistically, more sensitively, more centered, rooted in the earth. A religion that will teach you the art of life, the philosophy of life, and will teach you how to be more festive.
You ask, “Why do I find attractive people frightening?”
Because deep down in you there is a search, as there is in everybody, for the other pole, and you don't want to get involved with somebody who may not be the other pole. But there is no other way to find the other pole except by getting involved in many, many friendships, in many, many love affairs. If you really want to find your beloved, you will have to go through many love affairs. That is the only way to learn. Drop your fear...
And if you start associating with ugly people out of your fear of beautiful people, that is not going to be satisfying to you.
The Cohens were renting a furnished apartment. Mr. Cohen had found the place, which met with all his requirements, but Mrs. Cohen demurred: “I don't like this flat.”
“What's the matter, Rachel? Ain't it a fine flat? Why, it has all the latest improvements: washstands, decent lights, good plumbing, and hot and cold water. Why not?”
“I know all what you say, but there are no curtains in the bathroom. Every time I take a bath, the neighbors can see me.”
“That's all right, Rachel. If the neighbors see you, they will buy the curtains.”
Ugliness can have its uses, but it will not give you contentment. And if you are afraid of beautiful people, then remember that you are really afraid of getting involved in a deep, intimate relationship – that you want to keep a distance, that you want to keep a distance so you can escape any time if the need arises. But this is not the way to go into it; this is not the way to know the secrets of love. One has to go in absolute vulnerability. One has to drop all armor and defense.
If it is frightening, let it be frightening, but go into it. The fear will disappear. The only way to drop any fear is to go into the very thing of which you are afraid. If somebody comes to me and says, “I am afraid of darkness,” then I always suggest to them, “The only way is to go into the dark night, sit somewhere alone outside the town under a tree. Tremble! Perspire, be nervous, but sit there! How long can you tremble? Slowly, slowly things will settle. The heart will start beating normally... and suddenly you will see that darkness is not that frightening, either. And slowly, slowly you will become aware of the beauties of darkness, which only darkness can have – the depth, the silence, the velvety touch of it, the stillness, the music of the dark night, the insects, the harmony. And slowly, as the fear disappears, you will be surprised that darkness is not that dark, it has its own luminosity. You will be able to start seeing something – vague, not clear. But clarity gives shallowness to things; vagueness gives depth and mystery. Light can never be so mysterious as darkness. Light is prose; darkness is poetry. Light is naked; hence, how long can you remain interested in it? But darkness is veiled; it provokes great interest, great curiosity, to unveil it.
If you are afraid of darkness, go into darkness. If you are afraid of love, go into love. If you are afraid of being alone, then go into the Himalaya and be alone. That is the only way to drop it. And sometimes if you can deliberately do something, it brings great awareness.
(Intimacy: Trusting Oneself and the Other, Osho, St.Martin's Griffin, New York, 2001)
topeng monyet
Ni Nengah Hardiani:
Ada suara kendang seperti suara kendang topeng monyet di luar, membangunkan istirahat siangku.
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Ada suara kendang seperti suara kendang topeng monyet di luar, membangunkan istirahat siangku.
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pengguna energi terbesar
Indi Sujawe:
Pengguna energi terbesar adalah fikiran. Fikiran yang tak pernah diam dan selalu melompat kesana-kemari mencari pegangan, dan itu sangat menguras energi. Itulah sebabnya stressing fikiran adalah sumber utama penyakit tubuh fisik. Ketika sel tubuh kekurangan energi untuk daya regenerasi dan untuk daya perlindungan dari racun yang dibawa darah, sel akan menjadi kotor dan sakit. Mendiamkan fikiran akan menghemat energi dan energi dapat dialokasikan kesemua jaringan sel di seluruh tubuh. Energi juga dapat teralokasi untuk mengoptimalkan kerja system hormon dan meningkatkan produksi hormon tubuh.
Pengguna energi terbesar adalah fikiran. Fikiran yang tak pernah diam dan selalu melompat kesana-kemari mencari pegangan, dan itu sangat menguras energi. Itulah sebabnya stressing fikiran adalah sumber utama penyakit tubuh fisik. Ketika sel tubuh kekurangan energi untuk daya regenerasi dan untuk daya perlindungan dari racun yang dibawa darah, sel akan menjadi kotor dan sakit. Mendiamkan fikiran akan menghemat energi dan energi dapat dialokasikan kesemua jaringan sel di seluruh tubuh. Energi juga dapat teralokasi untuk mengoptimalkan kerja system hormon dan meningkatkan produksi hormon tubuh.
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